Sexpert claims there is one concrete sign you're actually very good in bed

You might think being good at sex is all about pulling off wild positions or having a sultry demeanor, but there's so much more to it.

Sexperts say it’s way less about theatrics - and way more about emotional connection, communication, and being tuned in.

So if you’ve ever found yourself wondering whether you actually know what you’re doing between the sheets, the answer might be simpler than you think.

According to a team of relationship and sex professionals speaking to Metro, there are nine clear signs that show you’re probably nailing it in the bedroom.

And no, it’s not about chasing climaxes or copying what you’ve seen in a late-night movie.

Let’s start with the biggest green flag of them all...

Partner wants to do it again

If they’re asking for round two (or three), take it as the ultimate compliment.

It might seem obvious, but experts say your partner wanting more is a clear-as-day sign you’re doing something right.

Annabelle Knight, sex and relationships expert at Lovehoney, told the publication that being good in bed is about how you make someone feel - “safe, wanted, listened to, and fully included”.

That emotional connection is what keeps someone coming back.

And if they are, it’s because you’re not just going through the motions - you’re actually making them feel seen, respected, and wanted. Which is kind of the whole point, right?

You’re not obsessed with orgasms

If you’re treating sex like a race to the finish line, slow your roll.

Gigi Engle, sex and relationships psychotherapist at 3Fun, pointed out: “Great lovers aren’t chasing orgasms like they’re the end-all-be-all for being good at sex.”

Instead, it’s about “pacing, curiosity, and staying attuned to our partner’s pleasure”.

Basically, it’s not about getting there first - it’s about enjoying the ride and making sure your partner is too.

Enthusiasm goes a long way

Knowing every move in the Kama Sutra doesn’t matter if you’re not into it.

“Being present, engaged, and clearly interested is often more attractive than any specific move or technique,” Knight noted.

Enthusiasm - whether verbal, physical, or emotional - sends a strong message that you’re into them, and into the moment. That matters more than any fancy trick.

You’re comfortable taking your time

Forget the frenzied pace of p*rn - real pleasure thrives in slow motion.

Engle said: “Comfort with slowing down is an underrated sign of sexual skill.”

Taking your time builds trust, deepens intimacy, and makes everything feel better. Rushing? That’s for amateurs.

You actually listen - and adjust

Asking what your partner likes is one thing. Doing something about it is another.

Knight breaks it down clearly: “The most reliable signal isn’t what you think happened afterwards, it’s whether your partner felt comfortable enough to be honest in the moment.”

If you’re actively listening and responding, not just performing, that’s what sets great lovers apart.

You’re great at reading the room

Not everything is said out loud - and that’s where your awareness kicks in.

Knight explained that if you’re in sync with your partner, you can “pick up on tension, hesitation, relaxation, and enthusiasm, and adjust in real time”.

Those subtle shifts? They speak volumes, and being able to read them is a major skill.

Boundaries are respected without hesitation

This one’s non-negotiable. Respect is sexy.

Engle explained: “One of the clearest signs you’re good in bed is how you respond to a ‘no’. If you can take feedback gracefully, you’re definitely flying above the grade sexually.” It’s not about rejection - it’s about building trust.

You can handle nerves without freaking out

Not every moment will go perfectly - and that’s totally normal.

Being good in bed isn’t about performing under pressure.

“Confidence in bed isn’t acting or fake,” Engle said.

“And it makes you better at sex!” If things pause or shift and you stay cool? That’s maturity - and it’s hot.

Aftercare is a given

Sex doesn’t end when the action stops - and the best lovers know that.

“People who are good in bed understand that sex doesn’t end the moment everyone gets off,” Engle said.

Whether it’s cuddling, talking, or simply checking in, what happens after is just as important as what happens during.

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